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This short audio essay questions the male aversion to heartfelt hugs. It combines personal anecdotes with a description of a man-hug and gives examples of the man-hug in the media.
To Hug or Not to Hug?
Steven Tagle questions the male aversion to sharing heartfelt hugs.
It’s about nine o’clock at night, the day before school starts, and my best friend and I are standing on his porch. Hugging. We’ve been at it for about two minutes now, but I’m not counting. The quiet takes us over and it’s okay just to stand there, bathed in porch light, holding each other once the hug’s worn off. I don’t know how to describe it other than warm. Jason hugs me, and I hug back, all the while wondering if he’s cold in that small black t-shirt. We stand and hold, heads nestled on our shoulders, prolonging our goodbye with soft sighs. Leaving home each fall is tough, and these hugs are the reason why. These hugs make me miss him before we even start to let go.
Jason and I don’t hug because we’re gay. We don’t hug because we’re “girlie men.” We hug be...
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