Summary: This is a story about a Vermont family's experience living with an elderly member's progressive dementia. What happens to love when there is no memory?
Your program was very inspirational and made me think of my own mom, who at 88, has dementia. But unlike Marjorie, my mom, Sydney, has lost much capacity for speech due to the small strokes she's had. I realize how important speech is to the "new" relationship between Marjorie and her son. My sisters and I can still say "I love you" and mom says it back, we still hug and smile at each other - and sort of dance to the 40s music she loves. But when you subtract the ability to communicate the challenges to relate to each other are daunting.
Your program struck just the right note -- candid, gentle, tender without being cloying. It made me stop and think about the essence of relationships, what it means when the "currency of the relationship is love." I was touched that Marjorie seems to be refining her zest for life and extending that gift to these "two men" she enjoys, even as she loses her specific memories of them as her son and son-in-law. Greg, Bob and Marjorie are fortunate in having love as their bedrock.. Thank you for allowing us to share in this glimpse of the opportunities available to us at moments of life such as these.
Thank you Erica. A beautiful and touching piece that reminds us that love has no limits. It inspired me to see the potential within limitation. I enjoyed hearing each person's story and appreciated how they were interwoven. Nina
Wow this story really touched me. I agree with kate gleason that this really does bring the term "living in the present" into a new light. I loved the connection that Marge's son made. My grandmother recently died from Alzheimer's and it was refreshing to hear someone living with dementia sounding happy and open.That is what caught me. But it's also refreshing too, aside from my own memories, because that is Marge. What a great family you found. What a great story to share.
This story is magnetic. Marge is an inspiration, and Gregory is a wonderful story-teller. Thank you to both for instructing the rest of us on how to live gracefully and to be present in the moment. This reminds me of the endless universes that exist all around us, alternate universes underground, up above and right before our eyes. It's a relief to be reminded of the many possibilities, and this is a story that would keep me in my car even after I'd arrived at my destination to hear it through to the end. Bravo!
loved this piece. it brings the phrase "living in the present" to a whole new level.
marge is fabulous. one minute into this engaging story and i could not stop listening. of course, the story reveals the trials and tribulations in dealing with a loved one with dementia, but the family and marge herself also reveal the joy and curiosity that accompany a life lived and yet still to live. and love. every day, every moment is new. there is a section about saying "i love you" that i found so profound.
a beautifully produced, enlightening and lovely piece.
you go marge.
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7 comments
Tom Stanton
Posted on February 14, 2010 at 09:10 AM | Permalink
When the speech goes away
Your program was very inspirational and made me think of my own mom, who at 88, has dementia. But unlike Marjorie, my mom, Sydney, has lost much capacity for speech due to the small strokes she's had. I realize how important speech is to the "new" relationship between Marjorie and her son. My sisters and I can still say "I love you" and mom says it back, we still hug and smile at each other - and sort of dance to the 40s music she loves. But when you subtract the ability to communicate the challenges to relate to each other are daunting.
Colton Weatherston
Posted on December 04, 2008 at 04:19 PM | Permalink
Dementia
Nice piece Erica! I now have some personal experience with Alzheimer's. I have responsibility for my Aunt since my mother's death.
elaine moran
Posted on September 12, 2008 at 07:38 AM | Permalink
Review of Without Memory: Living with Dementia
Your program struck just the right note -- candid, gentle, tender without being cloying. It made me stop and think about the essence of relationships, what it means when the "currency of the relationship is love." I was touched that Marjorie seems to be refining her zest for life and extending that gift to these "two men" she enjoys, even as she loses her specific memories of them as her son and son-in-law. Greg, Bob and Marjorie are fortunate in having love as their bedrock.. Thank you for allowing us to share in this glimpse of the opportunities available to us at moments of life such as these.
Nina Curtiss
Posted on September 12, 2008 at 04:51 AM | Permalink
Review of Without Memory: Living with Dementia
Thank you Erica. A beautiful and touching piece that reminds us that love has no limits. It inspired me to see the potential within limitation. I enjoyed hearing each person's story and appreciated how they were interwoven. Nina
Grace Davy
Posted on September 11, 2008 at 10:03 AM | Permalink
Review of Without Memory: Living with Dementia
Wow this story really touched me. I agree with kate gleason that this really does bring the term "living in the present" into a new light. I loved the connection that Marge's son made. My grandmother recently died from Alzheimer's and it was refreshing to hear someone living with dementia sounding happy and open.That is what caught me. But it's also refreshing too, aside from my own memories, because that is Marge. What a great family you found. What a great story to share.
Daphne Larkin
Posted on September 10, 2008 at 03:14 PM | Permalink
Review of Without Memory: Living with Dementia
This story is magnetic. Marge is an inspiration, and Gregory is a wonderful story-teller. Thank you to both for instructing the rest of us on how to live gracefully and to be present in the moment. This reminds me of the endless universes that exist all around us, alternate universes underground, up above and right before our eyes. It's a relief to be reminded of the many possibilities, and this is a story that would keep me in my car even after I'd arrived at my destination to hear it through to the end. Bravo!
kate gleason
Posted on September 09, 2008 at 07:06 PM | Permalink
Review of Without Memory: Living with Dementia
loved this piece. it brings the phrase "living in the present" to a whole new level.
marge is fabulous. one minute into this engaging story and i could not stop listening. of course, the story reveals the trials and tribulations in dealing with a loved one with dementia, but the family and marge herself also reveal the joy and curiosity that accompany a life lived and yet still to live. and love. every day, every moment is new. there is a section about saying "i love you" that i found so profound.
a beautifully produced, enlightening and lovely piece.
you go marge.