Four bereaved mothers who first came together to share the pain and the tragic loss of their children tell the story of the 25 year-old organization they built for other grieving parents. Read the full description.
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Four bereaved mothers first came together to share the pain of the tragic loss of their children. Twenty-five years later they still grieve but also celebrate the 25th anniversary of Bereaved Families of Ontario, the organization they built together. Bereaved Families of Ontario-Toronto is a volunteer based bereavement support organization that provides programs and services based on a mutual support model to individuals, families, groups and communities throughout the city of Toronto.
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Review of Out of Their Hands
This documentary is desperately sad--and flawlessly done. It consists entirely of the voices of four women. They tell the stories of the deaths of their children a quarter century ago, and of the support group they founded together as a result. These are thoughtful women with broken hearts and cracks in their voices. Teresa Goff has captured them in the act of remembering, and of articulating unbearable feelings. They talk in poems.
"I wasn't there when he died, but I had to be there for everything else," one mother recalls in explaining why she insisted on going to the morgue to identify her son's body. "I remember taking a sweater because he'd be cold."
"I really wanted to die," says another, "and I couldn't. Heartache doesn't kill you."
There's a lovely sequence when the women talk among themselves from a distance of twenty-five years about their own sorrow--and their anger on behalf of their children, who were cheated out of life. They also talk of being saved by one another and other bereaved parents from having their lives truly crippled by grief.
"At this stage of my life I feel fortunate," one of the women says convincingly.
"Life is beautiful. It is. And it's precious."